Birth of an SME

I remodeled 9 months ago. That was like giving birth. Nine months later, I’ve given birth again, to something a little different. Quora is a site that has many Subject Matter Experts (SME’s) who answer questions asked by visitors to the site. Here are my Quora statistics: statistics 2012-12-31

As an SME, I have answered over 150 questions so far, virtually all of which are about mediumship and spirituality. It’s been a lot of fun, and there’s been an amazing variety of questions.

You can look me up on Quora any time you like. You can ask me questions there, or here on

Is going away? No. It’s here, and it’s going to stay. It’s a great resource for mediumship and spirituality.

New life in an old fight

There are a number of popular cynics that condemn life after death and/or mediumship. One of them has a $1 million dollar challenge around it, which has been in place for years.

Personally, I don’t give a hoot about proving anything to anybody, least of all to someone who is cynical to begin with. As far as I’m concerned, they can stand on their soap box and say it’s fakery all day long.

This kind of fight is old, boring stuff to me, and it’s been this way forever. But here’s something new and interesting. There’s actually someone in our corner who is willing to take the cynics on. He is matching them with a $1 million dollar challenge to rebut evidence of life after death.

Victor also wrote an article about the technical reasons that cynics are so stubborn. Not bad. I hadn’t thought of them in quite that way before.

How about that?

By the way, in the text above, the usage of “cynic” is mine, not Victor’s. He uses “close-minded skeptic”. My working definition of the difference between a skeptic and a cynic is that a cynic has a closed mind, so for me at least, the term fits.

Lastly, thanks to the anonymous person who gave me the link to Victor’s site as part of a survey I’m running. Much appreciated 🙂


Spirit Marco Polo

It’s nice to think about summer weather while we’re in January. Here’s a thought – do you remember Marco Polo? We used to play Marco Polo in the pool from time to time, and it was fun.

When it comes to being aware of the spirits, it’s not quite a game of Marco Polo, but they can (and do) make themselves known. Here is a nice little article that describes some of the signs and signals you might get when someone in the Spirit World is playing Marco Polo with you.



The Heart of A Mediumship Grinch

Cynical skeptics in mediumship are the Grinches of Christmas. I rarely address them in my blog, simply because they are who they are, they believe as they will, and I have no agenda to convince them of anything. But when there’s a perfect opportunity to poke a little fun at a Grinch who had a little change of heart, I can’t resist.

And in my best Dr. Seuss:

The Whos down in Whoville heard the Grinch’s heart grew

But only one size, and it needs another two!

This Grinch takes much longer, that’s what we know

But we won’t be worrying, because deep in the snow

His heart will be softening, like cold butter on warm bread

And he’ll be at the table, putting out the big spread


Medium’s Thanks on Thanksgiving

Communication between people on the Earth plane is full of misinterpretations, misunderstandings, and errors. Communication between mediums and spirits is similarly problematic. Here is a good article about what it can be like for those of us who are mediums that care about doing quality work, and how we might feel when things don’t go as well as we wish they did.

The article also has a great description of what spirit communication is like (or can be like) for a medium. Aimee uses a number of images to convey what it’s like, which works, but you could conclude that it only works this way on the visual side of the house (clairvoyance). But the general idea applies to clairaudience and clairsentience as well – we get flashes of sound and feelings, just like we get flashes of images.

I thought about how to characterize the article, and the best, most accurate, and only thing that came to me is a sweatshirt turned inside out. The article is written from the inside out, just like a sweatshirt. Ok, it’s not the most flowery of analogies, but it fits really well (pun intended!).

Nonetheless, Thanksgiving is a day for giving thanks. Thank you Aimee.

Counterfeit mediumship?

An article just came out about Theresa Caputo, who is known for her show the Long Island Medium, stating that she is refuting claims that she is a fake. Apparently, there is at least one web site that claims to have inside information that she’s a fake. And of course, there’s always the skeptic/cynic sites that claim everyone is a fake. I won’t bother with the question of whether she’s fake or not. But how mediumship gets dragged into the mud, whether the medium is genuine or not, is a conversation worth having.

I think that the common human desire to make something better, to jazz things up a bit, leads to a lot of trouble, especially when it comes to mediumship. I think show producers are prime examples. The risk of an episode being less than stellar makes them want to jazz it up and put the “odds” of success on their side. When it’s discovered for the fakery and manipulation that it is, the medium is usually the victim, even if the medium didn’t knowingly/willingly participate in it.

I think mediums have the capacity to jazz it up too, albeit in a different way. Fairly frequently, they use poor form in their message work, which I call message casting. It’s not a manipulation by the medium to make things more successful. It’s more like the medium allows the spirits to be sloppy in identifying who the recipient of the message actually is. It looks like the medium is jazzing it up, even when the content is legitimate and lands on the correct recipient. Message casting is primarily the medium’s fault, because the medium can set rules for how they want to work with the spirits to avoid it. I don’t do much message work these days, but I’ve always been a stickler for “no slop” message work. My policy is that if you don’t know where the message should go, you shouldn’t give it out. If you don’t know, it’s the spirit’s fault because they haven’t shown you where the message goes. If you let the spirits fish around the audience for a recipient, it’s your fault for letting them. Despite my policy, I’ve had a time or two when the spirits did it to me anyway. I was very pissed off, and I let them know, in no uncertain terms. Mediums who do message casting are giving the skeptics/cynics a big opportunity to damage the medium’s credibility, whether it’s deserved, or not.

Fortunately, fake or less-than-credible mediumship doesn’t invalidate mediumship any more than counterfeit money invalidates all money.


Survey says ..!

I used to watch Family Feud a lot. The gameboard shows survey responses, and the number of people who picked each response.

Survey says .... on Family Feud









Now we can have our very own gameboard, with responses to a survey about spirit communication. A study was done amongst Hispanic-American people about whether they believed in spirits and spirit communication. The numbers in the “It is possible to communicate with spiritual beings or saints” column are pretty good! Now, where do I get all those fancy lights… 😉